1 2 Terrible twos; A never ending battle | The Life Of A Glasgow Girl

Thursday, 14 July 2016

Terrible twos; A never ending battle


Ahhh, The "Terrible Two's" It's a horrible time for both parent/s and child/ren alike. It's an endless loop of crying, frustration, violence and the occasional hug (if I'm lucky). Somehow, now that I am experiencing it first hand with a toddler who likes to scream the house down, I think that no one was ever very honest with me about the terrible twos.... well, at least I don't think they were, it's either that or my child's a complete and utter monster who is testing what ever patients I have left at this point. It's a horrible time for sure and I fear that it wont magically go away and be all rainbows and kittens once he turns three (although I wish that were the case) Like the title of this post says, It IS a never ending battle between myself and my never happy (that's how it feels) toddler.


When it comes to the terrible twos there really isn't much I can tell you in regards to advice because, well, I'm still stumbling through this myself, so this is really more of a rant/my story type post. I have no idea what I am actually doing and most of the time it's just me wanting to pull my hair out and run away to Spain or something, I don't know, it's still a big mess in my head and I can't quite understand why my son tells me he wants orange juice but as soon as I give him it he "hates" it, throws it across the room then proceeds to jump up on down on the spot screaming his head off and wont let me touch him shouting "NO NO NO"... Like really Leon? REALLY? I only gave you orange juice THAT YOU ASKED FOR, my lord child. His tantrums really are getting out of hand, I knew he would have some, it's only normal right? but I just feel like he has SOOOOO many, so bloody many! Every other day it's over nothing, literally nothing, I mean, I don't quite understand why he is crying and doesn't want me or anyone for that matter near him or for you to comfort him, then he cries even louder when you try to help the situation. TANTRUMS SUCK! They really suck and I am so over them, I wish I could mute them or something because that would really really help right about now.

My frame of mind when these outbursts happen is usually that I can't wait for him to go to bed because then I wont actually have to deal with his behavior anymore. I know I shouldn't say it and even right now I feel like a failure for thinking about it but damn, my child is a complete and utter brat when he is having a tantrum, he hates the world, kicks, screams and sometimes bites, which drives me up the wall because he was never a biter before starting a certain thing (Can't say too much) to be honest, he was a lot better before this, his tantrums weren't too bad, only on occasion but now he hit's out at everything and quite frankly I'm over it. I don't know how to curb it, I have mastered the art of drowning out noise and I can now hold in my tears when in public. I'm getting there..... aren't I? Sometimes I feel like I am the only one who feels like this, I feel like I am a failure because I am sitting there, watching my child scream and scream and scream because Bing is on the TV instead of In The Night Garden and I am not moving, I'm cold faced with no emotion whilst he rolls around the floor making a sound that only dogs can probably hear. I feel terrible, like a horrible mother for just sitting there, but I also know that it is the 7th tantrum of the day about something I can't personally control and I have fought so hard throughout the last 6 tantrums to help him, hug him and show him that he isn't alone, so I am emotionally and mentally drained, I am done in and can't take it anymore. Feeling like a failure isn't nice, It's not great wondering how many other mothers out there are handling a situation just like the one you are in and handling it much better than you are. Self sabotage in this instance is my downfall, I overthink every mistake I've made, I overthink what I said and what I done exactly in every tantrum situation. 

I'm not sure what the whole point of this post was other than it feels good to get this off my chest, It feels a little better to have gotten this written down, to say exactly how I feel about the whole tantrum situation. I don't feel good thinking that my child is a brat, that he is a complete and utter spoiled little so & so at times, I hate that it's gotten to the point I am scared to say boo to him when he is screaming or throwing objects in my direction but that is my life right now. If anyone has any suggestions for me and I mean ANY, please let me know, leave a comment and save the day, be my knight in shining Armour please, because I don't know what else to do, I've tried sitting him in a safe place, in the quiet to calm him down, I have tried ignoring it, I have tried different things that just don't work so now I need more, I need help. 

Anyway, if nothing else I hope you got some insight into this, I hope that you know you aren't going through it alone if you are in a situation like me. 



Follow me on; Instagram | Twitter Facebook | Bloglovin
Rhyming with Wine
The Pramshed
SHARE:

39 comments

  1. Brilliant. Tantrums are so painful aren't they especially when they're over something so small like you've given them the wrong breakfast bowl! #coolmumclub

    ReplyDelete
    Replies
    1. They just happen so randomly and I can never judged them! The wrong breakfast bowl is definetly a big one in this house haha

      Delete
  2. Aww lovely, I'm sorry you're going through this. I related to every single word here as my boy is exactly the same. He screams, bites, hits and sometimes I have no idea what triggered it. I have written about tantrums lots of times on my blog and have had lots of useful advice and support. The best things that works for me is to remove Leo from the situation, be that baby group/the playground/the living room and take him to a different room to calm down, even if this means letting him scream himself silly for half hour before he calms down because leaving him in a situation that is obviously frustrating him only leads to tantrums that get out of control and that's when he starts biting etc. It is so hard and I really feel for you. I hope you find a way to deal with at that works for you both. Just remember you're a great Mummy and all kids go through this, some are just a bit more extreme than others!Hugs xx #coolmumclub

    ReplyDelete
    Replies
    1. Thank you so much! I really try to remove him from situations and I've now removed him from that nursery in an attempt to help his behaviour and so far it's doing the trick (fingers crossed) Thank you so much for the advice! I hope it stops soon for you, it can be very testing at times! Xx

      Delete
  3. Man the terrible twos are PROPERLY! challenging, and why I can't say the challenges go away when they become a threenager it does become a hell of a lot easier (well, at least I found) so hang on in there, hold tight for the
    s£££storms and ride the rainbows! They poor little brains are so small and confused and frustrated right now. Thanks for linking up to #coolmumclub lovely and remember to BREATHE!

    ReplyDelete
    Replies
    1. Thank you! I just feel like pulling my hair out most days haha. He's a wee terror but I lthink be him.

      Delete
  4. Aww I'm right here with you - we have a 15 month year old who is displaying all the terrible twoster signs....it's such a challenge!! I find it particularly challenging as she can only say a few words, so often these tantrums are her frustration as well. Hope it passes for both of us soon xx #coolmumclub

    ReplyDelete
    Replies
    1. It's always frustration for both the kiddies and parents!! Haha I feel so sorry for the little ones because they can't really express their feelings xx

      Delete
  5. I was lucky with my girl as she was not too bad at 2 (she has just turned 3) all she really done was try and run away from us sometimes. My son is not two yet and he is a handful already, he demands stuff, trashes the house, bites, screams and is a little monster. xx

    ReplyDelete
    Replies
    1. My son runs away when we are out constantly and it puts the fear of God into me for sure! I'm so worried something will happen. They really know how to push buttons! xx

      Delete
  6. Oh gosh it sounds like you are having a hard time. I completely sympathise - it is such a challenging stage. My 3 girls are much older now but I can still remember (just) how tough it was. Sorry I don't have a MAGIC answer. Just keep trying little changes to diet, regime, sleep and activities perhaps and see if it works. You are doing a good job. Believe in yourself! :)

    ReplyDelete
    Replies
    1. Thank you! I've been searching like mad on google for different tips haha.

      Delete
  7. We didn't really go through the terrible twos. My daughter was fine until she turned 3 ;) Thankfully it didn't last. She's turning 6 next month and is doing really well. Have faith! You're doing absolutely fine :)

    ReplyDelete
    Replies
    1. Lucky you! I really wish his temper would calm down but I don't see any signs of that happening any time soon! He is getting a little better with the biting and hitting which is gr at!

      Delete
  8. I got off lightly with my eldest daughter, but my youngest turns 2 next month and I don't think I will with her. She is a little monkey already! x

    ReplyDelete
    Replies
    1. At least you got out of it with your eldest! Hopefully it won't be as bad as you think :) x

      Delete
  9. I can so relate to all of this at the moment. I used to think when Evie threw a little paddy that it was a toddler tantrum until she actually threw a real one and I was left speechless. I couldn't talk to her, touch her, offer her anything, or do anything. They come so often now, it's so hard to know what to do. Especially when you're in public. x

    ReplyDelete
    Replies
    1. The public ones are the worst I think!! I freeze most of the time but I just stop the tears and try my best to remove him from the situation x

      Delete
  10. I am dealing with the terrible twos with my twins so I can definitely relate. So tiring.

    ReplyDelete
    Replies
    1. Oh twins?! I can barley handle one never mind two!! Good luck x

      Delete
  11. Oh you have my total sympathy, I had the same with my eldest boy, thankfully he grew out of it.
    I am sure your little man will too :)
    You're not a failure, you're a mommy doing the best she can and that's pretty awesome on it's own xx

    ReplyDelete
    Replies
    1. I can't wait till Leon grows out of it!! I am praying for it to happen soon haha. That kind you so much! Xx

      Delete
  12. I am dreading this stage even more so than potty training. My little boy in the last few weeks (17months old) has started flinging himself on the floor and he has a new strange whinge so i think were not far off the terrible 2s. Sorry i have no solutions but i shall be looking out for advice when its given :)

    ReplyDelete
    Replies
    1. We are trying to start potty training and he's not really taking to it. He was for a while and was so interested in the potty but now he doesn't want to know about it! The terrible twos are just a horrible stage haha

      Delete
  13. We got away lightly with the terrible twos and they hit more at 3, now at 4 they are forgotten, great post to help others going through it :)

    ReplyDelete
    Replies
    1. Oh lucky you! I am so jealous haha

      Delete
  14. It's true you are not alone and be aware that some people only show their best side so to speak. We are all trying to look like ducks calm and serene while really we are paddling away furiously under the water. I've yet to reach the terrible two's with my daughters but already there's the odd whinge over wanting something in the fridge. #mmbc

    ReplyDelete
    Replies
    1. Thanks! It's great when people can relate tbh. My little one started before he was one and I feel like it's just gotten worse the older he gets!

      Delete
  15. Aw I feel for you! My 19 month old loves a good tantrum and I do feel like it's only going to get worse as she gets closer to two. She's also a biter which can be pretty embarrassing around other people's kids. I know what you mean about counting down the hours until their bedtime too, it can be so exhausting. Sounds like you have a feisty one on your hands - deep breaths! Hope it gets better soon x #coolmumclub

    ReplyDelete
  16. I always find it so random the things that my daughter has a tantrum about. At times I think 'uhoh this is going to cause a tantrum' but it doesn't she accepts what it happening and is fine and then other times completely tiny things set her off. I try to just stay calm and think that she is trying to deal with emotions she doesn't understand and can't express herself properly so it comes out like that. Thinking of it in that way helps me feel slightly better about them.

    ReplyDelete
  17. I empathise with you, hard times :( #bigpinklink

    ReplyDelete
  18. Big hugs to you. Tantrums can be hard. I know what you mean about muting it. I sometimes wished that there was a mute button so that I could watch the drama without the noise. The only advice I can tell you which I know will not offer much comfort now is that the tantrums will pass. When my kids were younger, I would usually avoid situations/places which would trigger the tantrums but sometimes I know it's random. We used to have the time out chair (or you can use a mat) and sometimes it would be a nightmare having to put that child over and over and over again but I stuck with it and would do it till my kids calmed down. #bigpinklink

    ReplyDelete
  19. The terrible twos started early for my son and never ended! My daughter was a lovely two year old, I thought we'd escaped all that...but then she turned three! Argh shes a total threenager x #bigpinklink

    ReplyDelete
  20. I feel for you but I know exactly what you're going through. Although my son seems to have gotten better as he approaches 3, I went through an awful period earlier in the year. It was hard work. It does get better and just always remind yourself youre doing a fab job. #bigpinklink

    ReplyDelete
  21. I think our terrible twos arrived in the post the morning of our lads 2nd birthday with his cards. Distraction and ignoring are the only things getting me through this morning. And wine for Mama when the requested food is received and launched across the kitchen.

    #fartglitter

    ReplyDelete
  22. Oh gosh I really feel for you reading this. I think that I would definitely find it hard to console a child having a tantrum if it had happened over and over again that day. I would like to say that this is a phase, and it will blow over soon for you. I'm not yet at the terrible twos stage, we have another year to go, but already I can see the first tell tale signs of a tantrum happening, like when we take a toy away from our daughter. Please don't feel guilty about not responding to the tantrum, it is natural to feel annoyed about it, we are only human after all. I've really enjoyed having a snoop around your blog, as this is the first post I've read today. Thanks so much for linking up at #fortheloveofBLOG. Claire x

    ReplyDelete
  23. Tantrums seem so much worse when the first couple years of their lives they were few and far between. Stay strong mamma it pasess..I hope. #bigpinklink

    ReplyDelete
  24. So much sympathy lovely - my daughter is 15 months and she has just begun the uncontrollable temper tantrums! It's come from nowhere so I'm quite shocked by it all...although she hasn't started talking yet so once that starts I'm sure it'll get worse that she can yell "mummyyyyyy" lol. Hope it gets better for you soon xxx #bigpinklink

    ReplyDelete
  25. It's not called the terrible twos without reason. We've been there, and of course the cliched, trite line to trot out is that it does get better eventually (it's actually true!) But that obviously doesn't help at the time. I generally found wine was the best solution. #bigpinklink

    ReplyDelete

© The Life Of A Glasgow Girl. All rights reserved.
Blogger Designs by pipdig