15 things I've had said about my depression

Hello all you wonderful human beings. Today I wanted to bring a post to you all that's a little personal to me.

Lately I have been thinking a lot about my depression and anxiety, how it effects me and how I handle it and what measures I take to try help myself. But in thinking about all this it stirred up some awful memories of the dumb shit people have said to me over the years. You know, those phrases that get used to death towards anyone with MH issues etc... the phrases that people think are going to cure you of that chemical imbalance you have.

Not only is it rude and uneducated to say these things it also hurts, it reminds me of just how different I am to someone who doesn't go through these things, who doesn't have to live with a battle in their head everyday. I am constantly battling with myself. Should I wear this? Or will everyone judge me? Will they see that I have depression? Will they notice the marks on my arm? Anyway, if you're someone who's used these terms, maybe it's not occurred to you how much it affects someone, maybe you were just trying to help, but once you know that it's not the right way to go about it, please stop doing it.

So here's 15 dumb as hell things people have said to me about dealing with depression;

  • "Just think positive, you'll be okay"
  • "Go get some air and calm down"
  • "Medication can't possibly help can it?"
  • "You need to get over it"
  • "There are people out there who have it worse than you"
  • "Think yourself lucky you aren't dying"
  • "It's just in your head"
  • "Just breath and count to 10 then get on with it"
  • "You need to just get on with it"
  • "Pretend it's not there"
  • "Pull yourself together"
  • "I'm struggling too but you don't see me moaning about it"
  • "Toughen up"
  • "It's silly, how can you be scared to go out?"
  • "Isn't depression all in someone's head but?"

It's frustrating when someone says this to me and it's even worse when it's someone I'm close with. I always hope that they would know better and be a little more educated on the matter but that's not always the case. So if you ever find yourself talking to someone with depression or something  else along those lines, please, do not say any of those phrases to them! If you do, I can guarantee they are calling you a bellend or something or other in their head....

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  1. Oh my goodness I can't believe people have said all of those things. I had severe depression about 5 years ago. I think it is so hard to understand it and what it feels like until you've experienced it for yourself. You can't just 'pull yourself together'. Some people can be so narrow minded. x

  2. OMG! I couldn't agree more with what you have said! I get so wound up when people tell me to just 'forget about it' or 'get over it'. It makes me want to scream from the rooftops! haha!

    So glad you have put my thoughts into words!


  3. I'm going to be honest here, I dated a guy who was depressed looooong time ago and I think I probably told him all the comments you wrote...why? because I did not know a single thing about it! Like you said I was uneducated, and believe me when I said thses comments, it did not come from a bad place at all, I loved the guy!
    Depression is an illness that we can't see and as humans if you don't see it we can't really understand it... Now that I actually work with people with mental illness issues, I understand more about it and I would never say theses comments again!

    Aurélie x

  4. This is perfect. The pretending things don't exist can kill, nonsense. Well done on this one!

  5. I've heard these myself. When I told my mom I was diagnosed with depression she said and I quote "I wouldn't call it depression". People really don't understand depression and how it affects people. They assume that if you're able to function and aren't self harming or doing visible things; you can't possibly be depressed. I think being told to think positively was one of the worst and most annoying things ever said to me. I hope people read this post because this is important to hear.

  6. People really don't understand depression. It's sad to think that people can't even sympathize with something they've never gone through. I've never lost someone, but I can still sympathize and support them. Maybe it's because mental illness is still so misunderstood and still so taboo in some places, but it's amazing how ignorant people can be about it. I just hope that someday they don't become depressed and have people say these things to them. Because it hurts and depression hurts enough already.

    Fantastic post!

    Emily | https://www.thatweirdgirllife.com

  7. Sorry to hear people are so ignorant. I don’t know much about depression but when my friend go ill I just said I’m there fir her, no matter what. We need more kindness and compassion in this world đŸ’–