Because of him


Becoming a mother was single handedly the best moment of my life. Seeing his tiny face, those teeny weeny toes and his head of hair brought in a rush of emotions that I've never felt before. I knew I loved him before he was born but actually seeing him was a whole different ball game altogether, in that moment I just knew that because of him my life would be forever changed and I couldn't wait for it to start.



I got asked so many questions and told so many things when I first had little bear like

"Do you not feel this has ruined your life?"

" But what about a career?"

"Once you have a kid it's all over from there"

"At your age it's going to be hard, be prepared for no social life or friends"

And every time I heard something like this I wanted to punch the person square in the face but no wonder, why would anyone think it's ok to say this to a new mum?! It's terrible. My life wasn't ruined, it changed its course and I wouldn't have it any other way. I can still have a career with a child, plenty of super mammas out there do. My life isn't over, in fact, the day he was born was the day it all started again. And my social life did take a hit but not because of my child but because of the lack of respect and u understanding I got from so called friends, it is true you find out who matters when you have a baby.


But all of this didn't bother me, I loved being a mother and I still do very very much. I can't imagine life without little bear because he makes me a better version of myself and it's because of him I am who I am today.

Because of him I'm up until the early hours of the morning studying and getting work done just so I can pass college and keep work going. Because of him I fight through my fibromyalgia on a daily basis, pushing through the pain and doing my best to give him an awesome life. Because of him I aim to better myself both mentally and physically. Because of him I'm always improving. Because of him my goals are to succeed. Because of him, I am me.


So to all those people 4 years ago who had some "wise words" for me, you can suck it. A child doesn't automatically mean I'm going to be down and out, a child doesn't mean I'm going to stop striving for greatness and a child doesn't mean I have to sacrifice who I am. My little bear is the centre of my universe but that doesn't change who I am inside, he simply gave me a purpose far greater than anything I could have personally imagined.
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18 comments

  1. Wow. So beautifully put and written. You really are an inspiration, Jordanne. Your little bear is going to be so proud of you when he gets older. And whoever he chooses for a partner is going to have a lot to live up to! You are one amazing lady and a fantastic mum. xx

    Lisa | www.lisasnotebook.com

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    1. Aww thank you so much lisa, that really means a lot to me xxx

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  2. What an absolutely gorgeous post. The love you have for your son is beautiful to see and read about.
    Those pictures of the two of you are the cutest and you can see how much he adores his wonderful mumma bear. I understand people's fears when someone they love has a child young, but age isn't a barrier to being a good mum and neither does it mean your life is over. Different yes, but definitely not over. Keep doing what you do and I wish you both a lifetime of happiness. x

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    1. Thank you Emma! What a beautiful comment xxx

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  3. This is beautiful! I am no mom myself but it gives me hope that whenever I do have children, I can still have the strength to fight through it with lupus. He looks so happy and loved. You are doing awesome and don't let those "friends" tell you otherwise!

    Hannah the Mad Dog

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    1. Thank you so much Hannah 💖 your comment meals a lot xx

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  4. This post is so beautiful. I can’t believe people said those things to you when you first had your son, that’s so awful! I feel exactly the same as you, it’s becuase of my kids I do everything I do to try and be a better and happier personxx

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  5. I think it's something a lot of people assume ; you have a child , young or even not so young , that your life is at a standstill, which is far far from the truth . Can you even remember the last time you were at a standstill since having him ?! He's adorable and you guys make a beautiful family . Keep on being you xxx

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  6. I totally agree - besides, it's all over in a flash. My first baby moves out in two weeks! Where has the time gone...?

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  7. I agree, once you become a mum everything you do is for them isnt it! My life is my kids. You are doing an amazing job and those smiles say it all!

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  8. What a lovely post Jordanne and all you do is proof you can have it all. Your a successful young woman with a beautiful boy.

    Natasha// natashaleah.blogspot.co.uk
    Xx

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  9. Yes, yes and yes!
    I don’t understand why people become so negative when someone has a baby, first and foremost, not their place to pass comments. I completely agree you really do find out who your true friends are when you have a baby. Like you, I’ve always seen my children as my motivation to keep me going and working even harder with more dedication #blogcrush

    Soffy // themumaffairs.blogspot.com

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  10. Oh wow, I'm with you about the punching - why would anyone say something like that to a new mum?! If you can't say anything nice, don't say anything at all!

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  11. Beautiful post. You are right, you find out your true friends when you have kids. Some of mine struggled with it as they weren’t in that place yet but luckily the string friendships survived.

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  12. This is very beautifully written! And so so true! Becoming a mum is a whole new journey in life and it definately isn't a negative one! x

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  13. I love this post so much. I can so relate to it. People said things like that when I was pregnant too. You soon realise who your friends are, but it is also so amazing how much you can achieve and how much more determined you are to be successful when you are a Mum. It's not just you anymore and there is no greater motivation than that. It sounds like you are doing such an amazing job. xxx

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  14. I got this a lot too. I got married and had children relatively young and none of my friends understood it. It certainly isn't the end of your life, it's the start of a new one :) x

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  15. Good for you. I don't know how people can say those things either!

    And congratulations, someone loved this post so much they added it to the #BlogCrush linky! feel free to collect your 'I've been featured' blog badge :)

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