Monday, 31 December 2018

What 2018 has Taught Me


2018 has been one hell of a year to say the least, so much has happened and as we enter a new year, I'm reflecting on all the things that 2018 has taught me. 



Although 2018 hasn't gone to plan at all, I'm left with an array of valuable lessons learned, if there's one good thing that came from 2018, Then it's the life lessons.

One of the most important things I've learned this year is, that good friends are few and far between so I need to cherish those who are there for me. It's the biggest lesson I've learned, especially since I tend to really put my all into relationships wither that be with friends or a romantic relationship. I may have cleared out the friend department but I've met a lot of people who have made the loss bearable. This year I've tried hard to keep friendships going, I've sent letters, cards, birthday presents, texts and emails. I've made plans, I've been left waiting for hours at a meeting spot, I've tried hard throughout the year to keep friendships that were draining me mentally. The constant worry of "what have I done" flooded my mind. But I decided that I'm putting it all in the past. I'll treat people how they treat me, I'll support and love those around me fiercely and I won't be giving 3rd and 4th chances. It's sad looking back at those who will no longer be in my life but it's made room for more amazing relationships. 

On that note, I've also learned that you need to let go of the past, move on and not let it ruin your life. Holding onto grudges or negativity doesn't serve anyone any good and a lot of the time it steals those moment a of happiness, I'll be leaving it's all in the past so I can focus on the now and be present. Letting go doesn't mean you have to forgive, it doesn't even need to mean you're forgetting, but it should mean you aren't letting anything negative hold you down anymore, don't pollute your mind with all the bad stuff. Just do you, and forget about the rest. 

I've learned that taking time away from social media is healthy, I've learned to put my phone down, to switch off when I need to without worrying that everything is going to go up in smoke. It's ok to take "Me time" when it's really needed because you have to invest in yourself as much as possible. 

Another thing I've learned is that times can't always be easy, life is going to throw curve balls, I'm going to question my existence from time to time but I have to remember to keep a level head, to work through the bad times because they don't last forever. How I react to situations is key, I can either let the situation break me down or I can rise above it. 

I've also learned that it's the people you least expect that will have your back through the hard times and cheer you on. I've been surprised at the amount of people I've been able to connect with and open up to, there are people in my life now that I cherish so much, they always pop in with messages of encouragement. 

One major lesson I've learned is to always chase your dreams. Believe in yourself and be your own cheerleader. You have to be your own biggest fan. Put faith in yourself and you'll be surprised at the achievements you make. When I let go of fear, put some confidence in myself and just went for it, I passed my driving test. I also passed all my exams, managed to work hard and build better working relationships and been part of some amazing projects. 

If nothing else,  2018 has been a year of growth and self discovery. I've been pushed to my limits and came out the other side better than ever. I'm a much stronger person, I've gone through a lot both mentally and physically. It's been the worst year for me health wise and I've constantly pushed myself which has made me so proud. The days where I thought I couldn't go on anymore, I did. I've really come a long way and for that, I'm grateful. 




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3 comments

  1. Hey!
    This is a really good post. It made me think about some things in my own life good and bad. Sounds like you had a transitional year.
    Christine xx

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  2. Thank you for sharing this, I find it's so helpful to reflect on the positives of the past year, especially with so much negativity in society. As you said, BE YOUR OWN CHEERLEADER! I always look forward to your posts but am mostly a silent reader - i couldn't resist commenting on this one. Thank-you and i hope 2019 can bring more silver linings x

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  3. Oh I totally agree about social media, time off is so healthy! Also, being your own cheerleader is fantastic!
    Thanks for sharing :)
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